Order or disorder, without being outside of you, are inside you. The external is usually a reflection of what’s going on inside us.
Order, or its opposite (disorder), can occur:
in your home or bedroom,
in the things you own or employ,
on your desk or job site,
in the ideas you have in your mind,
in the language with which you express yourself,
in the way you use the technical means
the way you feed,
in the importance you attach to events…
The ancient Romans said, “Keep order and order will keep you.” They concerned not only the placement of each thing in its proper place, but also the order in thoughts and an adequate succession in the acts that are fulfilled.
Disorderly acts without ton and son, because it does not prioritize its activities beforehand. He performs them as the occasion presents itself, guided more by his impulses than by intelligence. The orderly person plans their actions and fulfills them giving priority to the most important or urgent.
The messy one accumulates things, practically piles them up; so when he’s looking for something he needs, not knowing where he’s put it, he removes everything, wastes time and makes his mess bigger. The ordained person is guided by the sentence: “A place for every thing and everything in its place.” When he needs something, he knows where to find it.
And what about order in ideas? A person is confused in the way they speak when there is disorder in their mind. With such a person it is difficult to dialogue, because it goes from one topic to another without concluding anything; refers to facts without specifying subjects and mentions subjects without requiring actions. Simply put, you don’t understand him. Extreme disorder becomes chaos, while order is harmony.
Three practical suggestions
While there are no universal recipes for improving order in people’s lives, these three suggestions can be effective:
1. practices reflection a lot; review your ideas; identify what is very important to you and why you consider it so;
2. Get away from a notebook or notebook, where you are pointing out interesting data or ideas that you hear or read, phrases of authors, sayings and sentences; that will help you recognize and reinforce your most entrenched convictions;
3. Use an agenda, where you write down the things you intend to do, foreseeable events, dates to be taken into account, etc.
I want to evoke here the lesson given to me by one of my sisters-in-law, who always remembered the birthdays and anniversaries of the whole family. It was for us as a living memory; thanks to her, we did not pass on dates when it was a family duty to congratulate someone. One day I asked him, “How do you always remember parties, birthdays and anniversaries of the whole family, yet be so numerous?” He replied immediately: “Very simple: I have all those dates written down, and before the beginning of each month, I check my schedule…”. I must add that that sister-in-law of mine is very tidy. Thanks to that quality, your house always looks clean and comfortable.
The essence and root of order
Order, like all virtues, requires balance.
Order must be like a healthy atmosphere; it does not have to be a suffocating thing, because it is not an imposed discipline, but an acquired conquest.
Order must therefore be prevented from becomes an obsession. I’m thinking now of a couple of friends I think of a lot, but from which I fail the mania of order in which they have fallen. They have a still very young son and I have once felt sorry for him, convinced that his parents are inducing him to live repressed without him noticing yet. When you go to school or know other homes, you won’t know how to behave. I have noticed that few visitors come to the house of these friends; when other relatives go to visit them, they arrive without children, because they already know that there the boys have no place, because they can’t move, they can’t scream, or throw anything away. The mania of order that has been installed there is perceived as a straitjacket. What should be harmony is repression.
Order doesn’t have to be rigid. The best order is the one that is perceived spontaneous, natural, un forced.
The anecdote I’m going to tell you, I read it in an old book.
This was a saint who lived in an eastern monastery. He was in charge of the formation of three novices, candidates to be, too, virtuous monks. One day he asked one of them to test his obedience: “Take care to fix the garden as best you can. Do it quietly and with all your intelligence.” The novice got to work promptly. He took up his task for nearly three hours, and when he thought he was done, he appeared to his teacher to announce, “I have finished the task you entrusted to me. I complied with it with all diligence and I am satisfied.” “Let me go and see, ” replied the saint, and stood up to oversee the work of the novice. When he stood in front of the garden, which looked completely clean and freshly watered, the saint put his hands on his head and exclaimed, “But what did you do? This is barbaric! Tell me where you threw out the dried leaves you picked.” The novice indicated the place and the saint took in a basket a few of those leaves and placed them here and there on the lawn. Then he turned back to a distance to see what the garden looked like with that retouching, and said to the novice, “Now our garden has been beautiful again. When you took away all the fallen leaves, you had stripped him of his nature.”
To better understand the essence of order, it would be enough to look at the firmament on a cloudy-free night. Stars and stars are perceived as living parts of a well-structured whole, where the various elements are distinct and independent and at the same time are related to each other. Creation is like an immense harmony without borders in which you can almost hear the “music of the stars”.
Also in small things, order must reflect, in a way, the beauty and harmony of creation. Ω